Being friends with a girl is hard work

When you get a room full of women together drama is sure to follow. The other day i was watching an episode of the real housewives of Atlanta and with every new scene came some sort of screaming match. As i watched one of the most popular shows on television today I wondered what is it about women well into their thirties fighting that makes me sit glued to my screen week after week with a feeling slight depression when i manage to miss an episode. The answer is somewhat complex I have come to realise. The dynamics of women when they are in a group are something to marvel at. Very rarely do all the women in a so called close group of friends get along think talking behind one another’s backs, occasional tension and snide remarks. 

The one thing i admire about guys in groups is their ability to move on. Guys can date he same girl and still be friends which is something girls cannot accept. Guys can enjoy banter back and forth and be honest with each other about anything. Ladies on the other hand have to watch what they say because even without intention of hurting your friend things can be twisted to make it seem like something its not. When you do something to a girl she is more than likely to tell a couple of people what you supposedly did and before you know it something small is blown out of proportion. Guys have their flaws naturally but with regard to friendships we have to give them props.

The older I have gotten the smaller my circle of friends has become. I stick to people who understand me and know me enough to know that I do not base my actions on hurting people. I have more guy friends than girls and it’s so much easier. I have a select group of people I can tell my secrets to and i am not ashamed to admit they include my blood sisters and a guy cousin. Hey if you cant count on your family who can you count on.

 

Fights are going to erupt if we don’t change our mind sets. We need to let things go and be open and more honest to  people who have proven they can be trusted. Also we need to stop judging one another and respect the rights of a lady to act how she wants to act without chiming in on why its unacceptable. Trust me the only thing that will ensure we can watch a TV program where people tune in for the sisterhood rather than the drama a fight scene which is sure to come our way.  Yes its hard to get along with girls, but when you find the right friends girls will always have your back and protect you till the end. Carving out the rotten apples is the hard part