The word no is a word i do not like to use often in regards to most aspects of my life. I find that on average i probably say No far less than most people I know. Trying to figure out the reason for this i have come up with countless theories some flattering to my character and others obvious  flaws. At the end of the day saying no is unavoidable and as much as i may wish i could help everyone who asks me for a favor out it is not possible without over extending myself.  People detect Yes people very easily and unfortunately the climate of the world we live in is that when you find yourself saying yes all the time even against your better judgment you will encounter people who abuse your seemingly kind nature. I have definitely come in contact with my fair share of people who use the fact that i don't like letting people down as open season asking me for help even when it is clear that i can barely handle my own duties yet alone dealing with added pressure that is not my responsibility.  Ask anyone who knows me personally and i think they would tell you about my willingness to help. As I grow older I have come to the realization that as uncomfortable as i feel saying No when someone asks for my help, It doesn't make me a bad person it just means that I recognize my limitations which is something I never used to do. Taking on other peoples problems/ responsibilities  or you name it can be a heavy burden that can take a tole on a person. the moral of this post is the affirmation that yes its ok to say no especially when you want to.